I recently met a guy with a sexual secret. He was 39, in great shape, and in his spare time was a CrossFit athlete. But he had diabetes, and he told me that it made him impotent. Besides, an erect, on-demand, rock hard schlong that could go for hours? I was in.
When I surveyed more than 4, Americans about their sexual fantasies for my book Tell Me What You Want , rough sex turned out to be one of the two most common things people had fantasized about. Most people—regardless of gender and sexual orientation—appear to have been turned on by the idea at some point. Interestingly, women are even more likely to view this kind of porn than are men.